Your challenging children are all grown up? Congratulations. You may need us. Come underground.

Mothering doesn’t stop at 21. For some of us it only gets more complicated and more interesting. Our children are the different ones: addicts, artists, seers, soldiers and prisoners. We’ve heard all the advice from well-meaning relatives. Tough love? They don’t have a clue. Just love. That’s all.

Whatever your story, we get it.

This is not the prom parents’ club. It’s a smart network of women (and men) who have been in the same meetings, hospitals, churches and alleyways. We’re underground because we can’t always play by the rules. Join our private  Facebook group if you want to talk.


Edward Hirsch

New Yorker:

The poet Edward Hirsch and his gorgeous elegy to his son, Gabriel

Modern Love Podcast

Modern Love Podcast:

Jayne Atkinson reads Ann Bauer's Modern Love essay from 2008, with followup from Ann

Medium story


A mother plans for her young son's return home from prison

New York Times story


Rocker Laurie Lindeen takes a road trip with her ex to say goodbye to their son

Oprah story


Gen X women are working more, raising more challenging kids, and suffering epic midlife crises

The Sun Magazine story

The Sun Magazine:

A gathering of high school friends, now mothers of fragile children

Better After 50 story


The mother of an adult with autism mourns her never-empty-nest

New York Times story


A mother and her autistic son contemplate his future